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Does being rich make you happy?

Does being rich make you happy? Here are several opinions on being happy and rich or both. none of which I have written but we all at sometime see to have been running on empty trying to discover our purpose to happiness.Enjoy and comment if you like. 

No, it is an illusion that money makes you happier. The happiness that comes from having money is not real happiness, it just makes you think that you are happier than someone who doesn’t have money.

This is due to the nature of our current culture. Presently the predominant idea is that enjoyment is equivalent to happiness, but this is a mistake. Enjoyment is achieved through the mind and senses, but happiness is experienced in the heart.

Money is seen as protection against misfortune and gives the illusion that we can control material nature and bend it to our will. This illusion of control is very powerful and many people see money as a way to control events, but actually this is not the case even though externally it seems as though it is.

In order to be happy at all, one has to first be peaceful. A person who is under stress and in anxiety cannot be peaceful. Heads of giant corporations are not peaceful, nor are heads of government. Undoubtedly they have great power, but what are the sources of happiness available to them?

The five senses offer some avenue for happiness, but on close inspection the happiness from sense gratification is simply negating an unpleasant condition. That is, we go from the negative to zero.

You can’t enjoy a meal if you are not hungry, you can’t enjoy sex unless you have the desire for sex, you can’t enjoy a film unless you want to watch the film. If your child has been missing for a day and you don’t know where they are, how can you watch a film peacefully, or enjoy a meal or have sex? There is no desire for these activities so they are not enjoyable. The enjoyment rests on fulfilling the desire. If the desire is not there, then there is no enjoyment.

Wanting something you don’t have is not enjoyable. What is enjoyable is fulfilling the desire. So first we need to have an unfulfilled desire which is not enjoyable (negative) and then we deal with the desire by fulfilling it which just brings us back to zero, it doesn’t advance us past that. We stay peaceful for a while, but then another desire comes up, and then another. No matter how much money a person has, the desires increase proportionately. Instead of wanting a motorbike in place of a bicycle a person wants a private jet instead of travelling on an airline. It is the same mechanism of desiring and then fulfilling the desire.

A ruler wants to conquer his neighbouring country, then another, then the whole continent and then the whole world. The desires never stop. Having conquered the whole world a ruler then has to worry over keeping control of it – more anxiety, more stress and no peace.

A peaceful person is happy with what they have. It may increase or decrease, but they stay happy with whatever they have. They do not desire more, and they do not lament for what they have lost. This is the baseline for happiness, and pretty much everyone who has enough food to eat and a roof over their head, can achieve it, if they learn to control their desires.

Desires are unruly things and pop up out of the blue and often refuse to go away. But a happy person learns to subordinate the incessant stream of desires to a primary desire that they can indulge without it becoming stale or uninteresting.

If all you want to do is wake up each day and chant AUM until it’s time to sleep again not much will interfere with your enjoyment. But who can do that?

We have an innate desire to be active and do things. There is much pressure on us from advertisers to do things we enjoy. This invariably means spending money. People don’t advertise taking a walk in the park, they advertise buying their product or their holiday packet or their services. This makes us think we need money to be happy. But a simple examination of reality will show that we are happiest when we are doing something to make someone else happy. This is because we are by nature servants. Everyone is serving someone else or some cause or some desire of the senses.

The military is all about fighting and defending, and we say ‘serve in the military’ and ‘military service’. The businessman serves his customer. The police force serve and protect. The husband serves the wife and the wife serves the husband. Doctors serve their patients, the ruler serves the citizens by protecting them, and the citizens serve the ruler by paying taxes. There is so much service going on but few people like to introduce themselves as servants. Whatever position we have that indicates there are others below us, that is what we like to present. “Head of this or that”, “Chief Executive or Chief Financial something or other”, “I run my own business,” “I’m in charge of …”, “I am responsible for …” We say all these things because we don’t like people to think of us as just servants, but we are, and we are happiest when we serve someone else.

Who we serve makes a big difference because we want our service to be appreciated, but now we have desires again which need to be fulfilled, so to be truly happy we have to serve with no expectation of reward. This is now in the realm of love. When we love someone we want the best for them, and even if they don’t appreciate our service to them, we don’t mind. Some parents have this capacity, but children grow up, so then who will they serve when the children are gone. Husbands and wives depend on each other’s recognition of their service to each other, it is a rare marriage where one or other party is indifferent to their spouse’s attitude towards them while they are trying their best to serve them nicely. So this is not ideal. Often it’s the best you can hope for but it calls for compromise on both sides.

So the concept is not that we need money to be happier, but that we need someone to serve, someone that we love enough that even if they don’t recognize us we don’t mind, someone who won’t grow up and leave us, someone who is worth serving, and someone for whom we can subordinate all our smaller desires.

As luck would have it, money is not required for happiness.

From the stories of Heinrich Boll:

One day a fisherman was lying on a  beautiful beach, with his fishing pole propped up in the sand and his  solitary line cast out into the sparkling blue surf. He was enjoying the  warmth of the afternoon sun and the prospect of catching a fish.
About that time, a businessman came  walking down the beach trying to relieve some of the stress of his  workday. He noticed the fisherman sitting on the beach and decided to  find out why this fisherman was fishing instead of working harder to  make a living for himself and his family. “You aren’t going to catch  many fish that way,” said the businessman. “You should be working rather  than lying on the beach!”
The fisherman looked up at the businessman, smiled and replied, “And what will I get if I do that?”
“Well, you can get bigger nets and catch more fish!” was the businessman’s answer.
“And then what will I get?” asked the fisherman, still smiling.
The businessman replied, “You will make more  money and you’ll be able to buy a boat, which will then result in larger  catches of fish!”
“And then what will I get?” asked the fisherman again.
The businessman was beginning to get a  little irritated with the fisherman’s questions. “You can buy a bigger  boat, and hire some people to work for you!” he said.
“And then what will my I get?” repeated the fisherman.
The businessman was getting angry. “Don’t  you understand? You can build up a fleet of fishing boats, sail all  over the world, and let all your employees catch fish for you!”
Once again the fisherman asked, “And then what will I get?”
The businessman was red with rage and  shouted at the fisherman, “Don’t you understand that you can become so  rich that you will never have to work for your living again! You can  spend all the rest of your days sitting on this beach, looking at the  sunset. You won’t have a care in the world!”
The fisherman, still smiling, looked up and said, “And what do you think I’m doing right now?”



The world describes happiness by equating it with money. Its when we stop chasing the world’s definition of happiness, we begin to  recognize that the ways to experience happiness have been right in front  of us all along.

There’s an oft-cited study out there that says money does buy you happiness — but only up until a certain point. It says that after you make $75,000 per year, increasing your income is not going to make you any “happier.”

“The hardest thing to find in life is happiness, money is only hard to find because it gets wasted trying to find happiness”

Happiness comes with the stuffs money cannot buy. But money can serves a path to reach to your aim of happiness. Money is only medium but ultimate key resides in ones hand to skillfully utilize their resource to find happiness.

Happiness may be found in poor cottage also

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So argument here is money can buy happiness but not always and without money also life can be happier. It’s all desire to have something which you don’t have, makes you unhappy. So try to be content with whatever you have, life will be lot easier.

Here are five beliefs about happiness that actually make us unhappy:

Belief 1: I need other people’s approval to be happy.

Do you often do things only to please other people?

Human beings are driven by “social proof.” Approval is extremely important to us.

We wait to buy the latest gadgets to look cool. We attend boring office parties to fit in. We don’t pursue our dreams because our families don’t approve.

But just ask yourself: Are these actions (or inactions) bringing you any real happiness?

The pursuit of approval is very different from the pursuit of happiness. Let’s not fail to distinguish between the two.

Belief 2: I will be happy when I have…

…a bigger house, a promotion, a baby, awards, respect, those designer shoes!

The reason why this belief is so strong is because it’s partly true. Yes, you will feel happy when you get promoted or buy a house.

The question is: Is this happiness lasting?

While you will escape your landlord’s ranting, you will have to pay new taxes and spend good money maintaining your new house.

Each level of accomplishment will bring its own set of problems.

Belief 3: I can’t be happy unless everything goes right.

Have you ever lost your luggage on a vacation? It upsets everything, doesn’t it?

Instead of enjoying the charms of a wonderful new city (or countryside), you’re running around buying clothes and other stuff, wondering if the airline will ever return your luggage.

That’s what happened on a vacation with my family.

Strangely, now when we think about that vacation, the trouble we faced because of the lost luggage doesn’t bother us. We just talk about the wonderful time we had.

The vacation didn’t have to be perfect. The only thing that really mattered to us was that we had an opportunity to have a great time together.

Think about it: are vacations, parties, dates, or any other special occasions everperfect? If something goes wrong does that mean the entire trip or evening is a failure?

Yes, it is a failure, but only if you believe so.

Let’s extend the discussion further: Is anything in life ever perfect? We have ups and downs every day.

Life is imperfect—perhaps that’s what make it more interesting!

Belief 4: I can’t be happy because of what’s happened in the past.

The past controls us in mysterious ways.

You might have lost a loved one to misunderstanding or death. You might have failed to achieve your dreams. As a result, you may have developed one of these beliefs: “I am not meant to find happiness” or “It’s not my destiny to be happy.”

Personally, I haven’t lost much in life, but I know someone who has. I used to wonder how she could enjoy life despite such tragedies, until she revealed her simple secret…

She believes that she has the right to be happy, despite her past misfortunes.

Your past doesn’t control your future unless you let it. Millions have turned their lives around. If they can be happy, why can’t you?

Belief 5: Happiness is not a habit that can be learned.

Can you actually learn to be happy? Like learning baseball or the guitar?

Yes. Happiness is a skill—one that you build through a number of daily choices.

Numerous studies have indicated that people who are happier have certain habits: they exercise, meditate, pay attention to their relationships, pursue their goals diligently, lead balanced lives, are grateful.

Research shows that by thwarting negative emotions, such as pessimism, resentment, and anger, and fostering positive emotions, such as empathy, serenity, and gratitude, the brain can be trained to become happier.

Happiness does not depend on fate; it depends on our habits—habits that anyone can learn.

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Money alone can’t buy happiness. If you are rich and spend unnecessarily, sooner or later you will see yourself in trouble. There are millionaires (or even billionaires) who finds themselves in the middle of financial suffocation. But you can be extremely happy being a common man who is spending wisely and saving for future to meet all possible contingencies. So happiness is a function of both money and how you handle it.

But lack of money never brings happiness rather it certainly buys misery.

If you are not unhappy, it is because you have enough money to meet common requirements. You may not appreciate your happiness every day, but when you lack it you will feel the pain out of it every minute.

Money is equivalent to oxygen. We doesn’t often think about it when it’s around, but once you suffocate, you will crave for a breathe.

If you’ve ever been on the bones of your arse you will know having money will make you happier.

I came from a poor family with hand me down clothes and sometimes a very aggressive parent who preferred spending money on alcohol over food.

Money could have made my situation a lot better.

I have since grown up and now earn more then enough money. I have found though that it will only increase your happiness to a certain point.

I’m now in the top 0.1% of earners in the world. That figure though isn’t as impressive as it sounds.

The chances are if you’re reading this you’re probably in the top 1% of earners in the world and you are rich.

You only have to earn $32,400 USD to be richer then 7,425,000,000 people.

If that’s not enough you can reach the top 0.1% by earning only another $50,000 a year. Approximately $80,000 a year.

You’re now joining a very illustrious club of 750,000 other people globally.

So let’s take a look at this question again.

Does being rich bring you happiness?

Susan Morwood

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